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Hi Amy,
I am a reunited adoptee. And I am so happy that you have a good relationship with your bdad.
While it may be very easy to feel bad that your brothers and sisters did not have as good a life as you had, there is really nothing to feel guilty about. You had nothing to do with it. It may have been poor decisions or circumstances but in no way are you responsible for that.
As for your amom. It is difficult for some aparents to realize that our finding our bfamily is no reflection on their parenting and does not mean in any way that we love them any less. I think anger comes from insecurity.
Maybe trying to reassure her would help and also not telling her as much about visits etc.
I wish you much happiness in your reunion and hope that things get better with your bmom and amom too.
Snuffie
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