I don't know if some of you regulars here remember my story, but here goes...
Our family had two sons and decided to adopt a daughter so we did. She came to the family at age five when the sons were nine and four. When she was 21 we helped her find her birth relatives and a year later she took her two year old and left her husband and all her adoptive relatives and lived in the neighborhood she was removed from as an infant by Social Services and put into foster care until we adopted her. It was shocking and we had a rough time adapting to the change in our lives. The years were mostly filled with no contact, but recently we reconnected and I received a call yesterday that I never thought I would receive. Mind you, we never had a falling out, just a falling away I guess. She seemed to need or want to get to know the relatives she did not get to know growing up. She has a child by someone she knew from visits (a child her birth dad kind of raised) when she was in the foster home but does not remember. She is expecting another child by this guy and told me she is naming her baby with my name in mind and that they are all coming for Thanksgiving. So, there you have it. I gave up on ever having a relationship with her and now it looks like things are taking a turn...
I am a happy mom, for sure. All the insecurities and heartache these past five years were as real as they get...but at this moment I am as content as can be and THANKFUL...I DO have a daughter.
I will keep you posted.
Why do I want to share this? I want to share that it is important for adoptees to reunite if they want to BUT it is painfully real that feelings get hurt and a lot of grieving goes on when there is disconnection. But I now know...there is hope.