[DebCsMom]

In the adoption wit our 4 year old, the BDad wasn't told for about a year & the BMom's extended family STILL doesn't know. Her parents & sister are the only family members that know. When our daughter was a few months old & her BMom was visiting, we got a call that her Dad was betting his kidney transplant. We drove back to the hospital. When we got there BMom's Mom met us in the lobby. She told us that BMom's Grandma was upstairs. She was told that we were friends from church & that they were our daughters Godparents!!!!!! I sat there in the room watching with such sadness as our daughter GREAT GRANDMA ooohhhhed & ahhhhed at her. She even held our daughter! It tore my heart out, this poor woman had no idea she was holding her very first great Grandchild!

This Summer our daughters BMom got married. We were asked not to come to the wedding so that no one would accidently find out who we were. I was so hurt! We have such an AWESOME relationship with BMom & her parents. It hurt us to not be invited to such a special event. BMom had always talked about our daughter being the Flower Girl at her wedding. But they still hadn't told anyone.

BMom is pregnant again. Everyone is sooooooo excited about the "First Grandchild". BMom tells me it's time to tell everyone, before the baby comes. I hope they all understand why it took her 4 years to do it.

Deb