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I don't have any experience with adopting out of birth order, but I thought I'd mention something I heard on the radio Sunday. I was listening to a christian program that does a variety of issues for families and was pleasently surprised to hear they were doing a push for adoption.
The interesting thing to me was that both of the adoptive fathers they had talking about it had specifically planned to adopt after their older children were of an age that they felt they could spend as much time as they needed with the young child they adopted. They did a good job at giving a great view of both the difficulties and special joys in adopting but it seemed to me the host was very focused on the possible problems of adopting too close to your biological children.
At this point I probably won't adopt out of birth order unless I feel very called to a particular child, but I do intend to have biological children and adoptive children closer than the teenager and toddler gap at least on one of the families had.
Any thoughts?
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TCK"s or Third Culture Kids are difined as "[A] person who has spent a significant part of his or her developmental years outside the parents' culture. The third culture kid builds relationships to all of the cultures, while not having full ownership in any. Although elements from each culture are assimilated into the third culture kid's life experience, the sense of belonging is in relationship to others of the same background."
How being a TCK relates to my desire to adopt some day: I grew up an international child, and while the walls between country and race mean less to me than most, I grew up with an understanding of the influence of clashing cultures that is hard to explain to someone who exists in solely one culture. God has given me the gift of experiences to fuel my desire for international adoption and to understand an internationally adopted child's world.
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