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I returned from China in Jan this yr with our 2nd daughter, who is 4th oldest, but the 6th child to join our family. Meaning she was 4 and we had two younger than her ages 3 and 20 months. While things are going well now, it was somewhat difficult in the beginning.
One night as I sat holding her while she screamed and kicked and tried to get away from, I realized she had never been any Mommy's baby. Yes she was cared for in her orphange, but she was never a baby. I rocked and babied her as much as possible, and still do, but with 2 younger children sometimes that hard.
I now understand why some agencies don't allow you to adopt out of birth order. Not that she's been overly difficult, or has had trouble attaching, but I think if we were to do it again we would maintain birth order. Shelley Mom to 6
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