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we did everything out of order. when i was pregnany w/ my 5th child we adopted a baby so the pregnancy became our 6th child before he was even born. 2 years ago we adopted a sib group and thise 2 kids were slightly older then 2 of my kids. sometimes those kids are the same age groups. they are also in the same grades at school. so, on paper it looks like we have 3 sets of twins. i will admit it was hard on the existing kids because they were displaced and it was hard on the new kids because they were used to being the oldest/baby of their family. it has also been hard because the new kids are just plain hard kids. they have problems and their emotional ages are much younger then their physical ages. so be careful, if you want a 4 yr old, you will get maybe a 2 yr old emotionally, which means the new kids will play great w/ your 2 yr old. believe me its true. my "new" 6 yr old plays w/ my 3 yr old better then her 6 yr old sister. make sure you get some play therapy for your new kid(s). it helps them to move ahead because of past trauma/neglect they will need it to move on. study up on attachment issues.
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