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Hi everyone,
Our birthmom is expected to deliver some time this week....we think. She has not had any prenatal care except for a clinic visit back at 29 weeks. Our agency and SW have tried to get her to go, I have tried....offered to take her, make the appt for her, etc.. She says she is afraid of doctors. (Does she realize what is going to happen???) I am concerned that we don't have an official due date...what if she goes over her due date? Anyway, to avoid upsetting her, our SW and I finally decided to drop the subject last week.
I am sure she is afraid or maybe it is a way to avoid what is happening. She is only 21 and has no, absolutely zero, family support. She does have the birthfather (20),though, who does seem to care for her.
Our SW has gone over the things that will happen at the hospital with her but I am concerned for her mental/emotional state when things start to happen. I realize no one is prepared for childbirth, but I really worry how she will react. Her mother has passed away and there is no other family for her and I wonder if the birthfather at only 20 will be the support she needs???
I certainly would love to be there to hold her hand though. We only live 15 minutes away from them and were told they want us at the birth. Any thoughts on how I can help? I guess I am just freaking out now that things are getting so close.
Any thoughts or words of advice from anyone on how to help our birthmom?? or how to handle the hospital??? or on how to not be a nervous wreck for the next few days!!!!!

Kathy