I agree with having the kids adjust to your schedule.. But, for my first placement
I had to adjust to my new schedule as I had never had a child. I also had made preparation and plans for an extended time off which I so desperately needed at the time.
I put my FS in daycare almost immediately (although I ended up moving him after one week because I did not like my first choice).
I do not go to all court hearings but I send a note and current picture to the judge. In my state, FPs are only allowed in the court room to make remarks (if the judge calls them). It would be too much lost time for me. I have always received feedback from the caseworker and Law Guardian that my letters are making an impact. And, a picture puts a name on the case - judge like that.
My FS has speech therapy at daycare so that is another service that I don't have to facilitate (although I was the one to have him evaluated for the services).
You'll find that you will find a way that works best for you...at least that's been my experience.
My heart has broken when the children had to leave but I know that I made a difference.
Good luck!
P.S Just for comparison sake, I take 3 and under also - my monthly check is $556.00. All foster children qualify for WIC so that's another way to cut costs for food. I have never applied...which is probably foolish on my part!