[jneen25]

I have been lurking and reading in this forum for a little over a month now after having made the decision to foster. I grew up with foster brothers/sisters, but of a different nature. They were all troubled teens coming out of CA Youth Authority on parole and not allowed to return to their families. So I understand what it entails to have a family member removed from your home. I have been doing research, have contacted multiple agencies in my area and plan to go to orientations for as many as I can as well as with the county in order to decide which is best for me. I have a few questions for those of you experienced foster parents.

1) I have become a little disheartened at reading all of the stories of RAD and aggression, etc. I more than understand that these children have been through so much and are in need of a loving, caring home. This much I know I can provide. I guess I'm wondering are all or the great majority of foster children RAD?

2) I am single and work full time. Are there any foster parents here in this situation? I truly feel that it is my calling to help a child/children in need. Being able to make any kind of difference is an amazing prospect. I am just curious if anyone else is in my shoes and how they handle it. How much time should be taken off of work following a placement? How difficult is it to establish childcare? I understand that in CA foster children are eligible for free/lowcost daycare, but one agency offered no other info except that she knows its available and to contact the state agency to find out how it works. Can anyone shed any light in this area?

I apologize for this being so long. I am excited about beginning this process, even though I am aware it will take awhile to get through. Any advice, suggestions, etc will be greatly appreciated. You all seem like a fabulous group of people and I know this is the place to receive honest, real answers to my questions. I know it will be a bit sugarcoated w/any agency. Thank you in advance!