Has anyone ever been through this? We had a sibling group of 3 (girl 16, two boys 11 and 10) that TPR'd last January and we have been working toward adoption. We were actually supposed to sign papers in August but due to our worker having a maternity leave, we were supposed to sign this coming Tuesday (Nov. 7th). The 16 yo decided that she does not want to be adopted after all, and they have moved her to a girls home. All in all this is a positive thing as I really do not feel she was ever happy in our home, but rather just "acted" happy because she knew this was a good fit for her brothers and they are thriving and doing well here with us.
Well, when they met with us to tell us she was going to move out, they also said they were putting the adoption of the boys on hold. I figured probably for 6 months or so until they get through this new adjustment and then we could go on with the adoption. But no, they are saying that we will probably have to wait until sister graduates or ages out of care (which will be either 3 1/2 or 4 1/2 years) before we can now adopt the boys!!
The boys came home devestated. They keep asking why they can't be adopted just because she doesn't want to be adopted!
If we have to wait the long term - the boys will be 15 and 16 years old before we could adopt! In their case I think this would be very harmful. Birth Mom is deceased and Birth Dad has had nothing to do with them for nearly 2 years now. They are VERY attached to DH and the past 2 days have been difficult trying to give them a reason why they can't be adopted - especially since it doesn't even make sense to me!!
CW has told us that they will be in long term foster care with us either until their sister ages out of care or possibly until they age out of care. They are not going to move them, but they will not let us adopt at this time. No specific reason given. The worker was out on Friday, but I'm going to call Monday to see if I can get any further answers. If anyone has experienced this I'd love to get your insight!!
MomInAL
Married to DH 20 years 11/29!
BD 19, BD 17, FS 11, FS 10 (siblings - hoping to adopt!)