[Kasey]

For me, christmas morning is sacred. I really dont think kids (especially younger ones) who are so excited about xmas, should be rushed to open their presents and leave their toys just to appease adults. We have this situation in our family as well, MIL wants everyone over xmas morning, BIL/SIL and their kids always packed everyone up, drove 1/2 hour to spend then morning and then turn around leave, come home only for MIL/FIL to come up for dinner! Makes no sense to me at all.
So I made it clear once we had alek we were going NO where xmas morning, if anyone would like to come over and watch the present opening and have breakfast we would be more than happy to have them. So that is how it has been for us and that is how it will stay. This is one I am not flexible on. My mom/stepfather and grammom have been coming up to watch the present opening and have breakfast. It is nice and low key and we love it.

Good luck, sorting it out, but if I were you, I would put my foot down. Invite him over, but dont' make Alex pay for it because adults can't get over being self centered and unflexible!