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Hi Vicki,

We had similar family problems during the holidays which ended up causing us to hate the holidays. Finally, last year we decided that we would spend Christmas Eve at DH's parents' house (they have a buffet party every year) but that on Christmas Day we were not leaving the house. Any of the family is free to join us in the afternoon or evening, but we are staying home. This way Ethan can stay in his own home and play with his new toys, which is all any kid wants to do on Christmas anyway. It worked out great; my parents came over for dinner and his parents stopped by as well. The day was fun, peaceful, and not full of stress like it used to be when were in the car half the day running from one place to the next.

Family issues are SO difficult, especially around the holidays. We all want those "christmas special perfect families" that we see on tv, but the reality is that we have to do what is best for our own families. If you think you, DH, and Alex would be happier staying home, then do so. You can see all the families the week after Christmas if you want to. You can always try that for a year, and if you don't like it you can do something different the next year. I bet you will end up loving it though! We did and wish we had done it sooner.

Good luck!
Lisa