yes it can JJ and that is why these forums are so great to be able to go to a vent a little or just shout out some good news finally received. And thank you surburbanmom your honesty and blunt no bars hold advice I appreciate it greatly, it is what I need right now some one to remind me of what could go wrong. I want this little baby so bad for so many reasons (other than just my own) that I may lose sight of reality and you were all right about it being her body, it is. Even if she doensn't realize it and tries to make all decisions mine to make in the end she has the final say and that is what really...really scares me.
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