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I think transracial adoption is really becoming more and more common, so most people "get" that is what is going on with your family. We have 2 bio cc daughters and our son is Ethiopian. The only people who have ever asked questions are kids, and they certainly aren't being judgemental, they're just curious. Our kids are young, but it tends to go like this "why is your brother brown when you're not?" "because he was born in Africa and they are brown there." "oh". And that's pretty much the end of it.
I think this is true with any race other than your own, but I will say that the main thing I've noticed is that I can no longer be anonymous, and sometimes I'd just like to go to the supermarket and not be noticed. The attention is always good--lots of smiles and hellos to my son, but we definitely don't blend in any more.
Overall, I really don't think it's a big deal to people. Do you care if someone adopts a child who is cc or Chinese, or Liberian or AA? I don't and I don't think most other people do either!!
I do agree with the other poster though about you adopting an AA/cc child. If your husband isn't comfortable with a full AA child, then you probably shouldn't adopt an AA/CC child either. Keep in mind many "full" AAs have cc in them as well, so they may be lighter than a baby whose parents are AA/CC. If a child is black, s/he will be treated as AA, regardless of whether her mother or father is CC.
Mainly I'd say go with what you're both comfortable with. There are kids of many races out there who need homes, so if there are races you can agree on, that sounds like hte way to go!
Teranga
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