[sal]

I'm a reunited adoptee who fortunately was welcomed with open arms by my bmom but have a similar situation with my bdad. I chose to meet him, asked him some medical history questions(which if he WASN'T my bdad... I doubt he'd told me)...and then moved on. There was/is still alot of shame/guilt on many birthmother's parts. The pain that they went through during the pregnancy and relinquishment for some was SO deep that they've actually been able to convince themselves that it didn't happen. This might be what happened with your bmom (if she IS your bmom)..My curiosity won over my feelings of protecting myself. You may want to meet her... perhaps she will eventually come around... and maybe she won't. Either way you will know that you did what you could do... and hopefully it will work out for you. Keep us posted... sal