[ilselu1]

Hello! New member here.

My wife and I did a "Fost-Adopt" a couple years ago, and are currently getting a certain amount of adoption assistance / subsidy but as our son is getting older (he's 3 now), he's needing more.

I work full time, and my wife just got a full time job a month and a half ago (previously a stay-at-home-mom.) We have gone through 2 day care providers with our son as after a couple weeks, he begins acting out against his female care provider. He'll do everything from blatant disobedience to throwing angry temper tantrums and hitting them. As his parents we have addressed this over time and have got his rage under control, but now that he's older he reverts to this behavior once at his care provider for a couple weeks.

We have been seeing our family counselor, but he's suggesting we take our son to a child psych. to address his specific issues. I know medical should cover this, but now we're looking at going here and there and my wife will be cutting her hours back to take care of our son, and may wind up losing her job all together.

**All that said***
We're looking to adjust our adoption assistance / subsidy. We have to write a letter telling why we think we need more. I'm wondering if I should write an in-depth letter explaining all of the problems we're having, or should I leave it broad and leave out details??..??

Thanks for any help.

BA