[jsimon]

First of all you have a lot of investigating to do before you proceed. I do not know the laws in PA but in CA you need to be married at-least a year before adopting your spouses child. Second the terms for terminating a parents rights are quite strict. It sounds like the BF has been paying child support and also has regular visitation with the child. That would eliminate abandonment (the easiest way to terminate a parents rights). It does not sound like you have much of a case to terminate his rights against his will. Your best bet would be to convince him to sign over his rights. Some convincing like pointing out that he wouldn't have to pay child support any-longer might be leverage. But maybe he wants to see her? You could also do a post adoption agreement like we did in our case and agree to let him continue his visitations as long as its in the child's best interest. Either way you definitely need to do your homework before proceeding and if he is going to contest the adoption then you will definitely want to consider retaining the services of an attorney.