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Originally Posted by Jannyroo
Has anybody found counselling helpful? If you didn't/ couldn't get counselling for whatever reason, how did you cope? I have had once a month sessions paid for by my local (government) council and had to travel 30 miles each way and have had 4 sessions over 6 months and it didn't seem enough. I feel my emotions will explode at times. How have you managed if you haven't had counselling, what works for you? I feel I would have gone demented without someone to talk to and at other times, I wondered if the adoption counsellor really understood the tsunami of emotions and anger issues that came with me?  I feel I do need professional help, I don't want to criticise counsellors/ counselling, but observations/how you coped would be useful. This website is really great, and yet even this doesn't seem enough at times???? Does anyone else feel this way? My counsellor has dug up a raw point that I've buried for 28 years and now its out, I don't seem to able to get past it, and I won't be able to see anyone for a further 4 weeks. I feel I need to have someone on hand/meet???  I haven't read any books on the subject or reunion, but as from tomorrow I am going to try and order from my local library.  |
Since I started this thread, I have received help from social services (UK) and they have found me another counsellor, not from the UK based organisation they were using, but a private counsellor who apparently is specialised in dealing with birthmums. I saw her in mid October and she is absolutely brilliant, and letting me get things off my chest without interrupting me. I think I spent the first hour crying my heart out, but I really felt things improved. So the message is, don't be afraid to change counsellors if you need to. I also have read the book the survival guide to Adoption and Reunion by Julie Bailey and its been so helpful, also, posting on this forum has been great and I've had a lot of help from one member in particularly who has emailed me direct. Keep expressing your feelings, good or bad, counsellor (if possible) and this forum. I try not to get too bogged down with it all and not "saturate" myself with adoption issues, but from time to time, I respond to others on this and a UK based forum (
After Adoption Home Page) but my honest opinion, nothing beats this forum, period. My son is responding well after a gut wrenching few months after reunion and everything has settled down, me included. So, a rainbow after the storm and darkness of unsettled emotions. Wishing you love and all the best who read this thread.