I would also like to suggest a book. How to Open an Adoption by Patricia Martinez Dorner. It has a lot of ideas for building a stronger relationship. There is also a book call "Getting Together: Building relationships as we negotiate" by The Harvard Negotiation Project. In reading it I felt it was perfect for building open adoption relationships.
Good Luck.
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Brenda Romanchik, Director
Insight: Open Adoption Resources and Support
721 Hawthorne
Royal Oak, MI 48067
248-543-0997
toll-free expectant parent/birthparent line 877-879-0669
http://www.openadoptioninsight.org