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Higgie
What information do you have of your adoption? Do you have any paper-work? How to know if the person contacting you is indeed your birthparent is, I imagine, very hard to validate. Can you ask the Agency or Court to check the details and verify if it is your birthmother?

I can't work out from your post whether the birthmother has contacted you, or you had your name out there on one of the registry's and she has responded. Has she given you her full name, and details?

Sorry - not much help - I didn't search, but instead was found by my birthson. I am a birthmother. I had not told my family that I had a 33 year old son, but once found, I told the world (or whoever wanted to hear.) I wasn't keeping secrets deliberately (but even I could see it was wrong not to tell my other children they had a half brother). I had always hoped (believed) that we would meet again as adults - maybe I had never come fully to terms with my own reality but I like to believe it was like a manuscript and I hadn't completed the chapters. Perhaps your birthmother feels the same.

I wish you well in whatever ensues. If it is indeed your birthmother, I hope you have many many happy moments and form a relationship that is beneficial to both.

Regards - Ann