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Thank you Linny and Josie! Great advice.
We would rather have a healthy open adoption but are very much open to other situations because the long and short of it is we feel there is a baby meant for our family and however he/she comes to us we will be thrilled. I really feel it is in the best interest of everyone involved if there is a healthy open adoption-key word being healthy. We are open to many potential special needs in children but some things we are not open to. Legal risk also scares us and all foster/adopt babies will be placed with us as foster parents not adoptive parents. We aren't approved through the private agency right now. We are still paperchasing and filling out endless forms. I have anxiety already about not being approved from our agency, my dh says that my fear is irrational but hey there is always a chance it could happen. So I"m not ready to close the foster/adopt door. Besides this leaves us open for other situations through our adoption agency should we be approved.
I've said "no" 3 times in the past 2 weeks. It is emotionally draining, honestly, all I want to do is say "when can I pick up my baby!" and make a mad dash for the hospital but there is a feeling that these babies were not right for our family, so hard to explain. I will be getting more calls I will have to say "no" to. Dh and I made a list of what we would/would not accept and plan on giving it to the SW who places-when she calls we will simply say we have already decided we are not 100% comfortable with this adoption situation. We've already filled out something similar but I don't even know if they have looked at it.
Thanks again for your advice and support, it was just what I needed.
L
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