[DaniJ]

I work with a woman who has two grown children from a domestic adoption, both with RAD. Sadly, with all the councellors etc. she has had through the years, not a ONE of them suggested RAD until it came up on this board and I thought to mention it to her.
Her children are over 18 now, living away from her, been through and dropped out of drug-rehab, etc. Similar to your son's story.
There does seem to be a need for a suport group for parnets of undiagnosed/untreated adult RAD children.It is a huge burdon and pain to cary alone.
Perhaps you would start one, and help others and yourself heal together?

I know from talking with her what pains, guilt, shame, and sorrow that she carries with her. Intellectually she knows it is not her fault, but the feelings don't understand logic.
Words can't cover the feelings we have for you, and paltry as it sounds, I am sorry that you , and all parents in your situation, have to suffer.

I would encourage you to consider starting a support group online for others. I think you could be a gift and a blessing that so many suffering parents need.

With love~
Danielle