Schatz,
Would you mind emailing me privately? There we can talk more.
I am at: Lifemother@earthlink.net
I will say this here: Some folks think that open adoption, especially one with visitation, makes it "easier" on the bMom to "move on" with her life. And that just isn't true. Like you said, we are forced to constantly face our choice. Open adoption makes things a bit more bearable. Personally, I couldn't imagine not being able to have contact with my daughter - but even still, it hurts.
Hope to hear from you soon,
Skye
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Mom & Lifemom
Child Photographer &
Adoption Author
Remembering Cindy Jordan ...
"Children are not the sum of one or two people who love them, but the sum of the many people who love them, and shape their lives in large and small ways. As my daughter's lifemother, I don't complicate my daughter's life, I compliment it. " -- from my article, Why I Chose Lifemother (Skye Hardwick)
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