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Only with our last two did we ever specify a preference. And to be honest, I never thought we would do that. (There were many reasons why, that I won't express here.)
Still, we would never have turned down a situation just because of gender. (Our last two babies were already born.)
I CAN tell you though....after having raised an infant boy to adulthood, that part of my thinking on having a boy, is that dh and I think our society puts way too much emphasis on 'having to be all boy'. Around here, it's more than common to find little boys' clothing so stereotyped with ages 12months and up, being stamped with some sports, truck, or military affiliation! When we were stationed in Japan, the boys' clothing 'allowed' them to stay a little boy, without defining them as a jock, a redneck or ready to go into combat, at such an early age!!!! Perhaps it's just the area we live in---and I suspect it is, but boys' clothing around here---stinks! LOL
This time around, I can tell you that it would be easier to have another girl, simply because of the items we already have in 'hand-me-downs'. (Not to worry, our kids don't exclusively wear hand-me-downs.) And, it's been a long time since we had a baby boy around here. Even our daughters now ask, "If we have a little boy, we'll have to go shopping, right momma?"
I reply, "Yes we will!"
Societally, I think adoptive couples Do request more girls than boys. We want to adopt only AA babies (possibly bi-racial), and I've heard this is more widely asked with couples adopting AA babies, than other races. Sadly, I suspect it's in the stereotyping through the media and such; but, as one poster said, 'If you were getting pregnant, you'd seldom have a choice.'
To each his own.......
Sincerely,
Linny
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