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We were open to either, especially after we learned more. My nephew has a closed adoption, my niece has an open adoption.
Ours just happened to be open adoption. We met our daughter's birthmother before she was born. She wanted a semi-open for our daughter's sake. She wants our daughter to be able to get answers to her questions later. Her birthmother left more openness up to us. It turns out that we really enjoy being in contact with her. We usually talk on the phone about once a week, send emails with pictures, and we have already met once. I think we would like to visit more, but we live a few hours away.
Like another person said, not every adoption would be best to be open I don't think, but I believe many are. Adoptive parents, children, and birthparents can all benefit from the relationship.
I think that no matter if your adoption is closed, open, domestic, or international, the fact will always be true that a child who is adopted DOES have a birth family. There is no denying it, and we found that in our situation it has been a good one for us.
As I stated in the begninning, I was open to either closed or open. For our next adoption, I would probably prefer at least semi-open. I don't know if it would cause problems for one child to be open, and one closed. But I suppose that also depends on each child.
Well, that was just a string of thoughts--hope some of it made sense!