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At first in our case it was strictly for the birthmother and her family. Then I started to see how it could be helpful for my daughter growing up (through written contact). To be honest we thought we were moving shortly after the adoption (which the birthfamily knew about) I never really considered having long term direct contact with visits and everything and they knew this. But as our plans have (been put on hold) and we've continued to have visits we have come to enjoy our visits (although it is still really difficult at times) and our focus has changed from focusing on what her birthfamily needs/wants to what our child and our family needs and is ready for.
I do have a deeper appreciation now for the relationship my daughter shares with her birthfamily...because all of my children have a different range of closed-open and my daughter has the most open relationship. Which I think is a true blessign to ALL of us.
Even when we do move out of state...we have built a nice relationship with them that we would consider having them come visit us sometime in the future if they wanted to.
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