Ky- Hello!
I think you are asking what is more important, the baby or birthmother right?
I will tell you that we didn't really want open adoption at first. Our agency ONLY does open adoption and we LOVED them so we decided we would listen to what they had to say. Well, they convinced us! We were required to research and that was WONDERFUL.
I can say the most important aspect for us that really made us choose open adoption is the child and how much better, IMO and I personally believe, it is for them. I just see the bond that a child has with thier bmom and I can't imagine NOT wanting to keep that and let them know who they are growing up.
I guess for me, I knew it was right for us when I just KNEW I couldn't imagine it any other way. There are a LOT of different types of adoption that work for different families, but for our family it just felt right. I hope this helps a little!
Natalie
P.s. you did everything great, don't worry!
