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Adoptive parents more open to transracial girls than boys?
Ok so, I've become really passionate about the blooming prejudice towards males in society in general, do mostly to the negative stereotypes and attitudes of the second wave of "feminism". I'm all for the old-fashioned feminism, not allowing prejudice against women, but it's gone so far that the some of the same sort of things that were so objected to in 1910 are being done to males. "Women can't do anything important and aren't as good as men" has turned into "Men can't do anything important and aren't as good as women" Whether you believe this to be true or not, you can’t deny that the media and other aspects of US culture is certainly subliminally pushing this idea.
Anyway, I've notice the effects of this are slowly creeping into adoption, more and more people just want to have girls and view boys as "difficult" and "not as much fun for parents"
Something I really haven't seen addressed much but seems to be true to some extent is that more people prefer girls when adopting children of different races than themselves. This is certainly backed up to some extent by the fact that the wait for AA boys and boys in international programs is often significantly sorter and actually stated by many agencies that there are more boys available. I'm really curious what you're impressions of this idea are. Please step up and post if you have an opinion on any of this.
There are several possible reasons this is true (if you believe it is). Here are a few I came up with:
First: the idea of boys as ‘bad’ or not as nice to have as girls.
Second: the sectional racial prejudice that it’s more important that for males to be the same as their father or adoptive families, to conform to the expectations.
And Third: the fact that the ideas of beauty and attractiveness are much faster to accept different races in women. For example, modeling shows and actresses are more an more encouraging to AA, Asian, etc… and present them as beautiful. There are a lot fewer African American men widely considered unbelievably good-looking as there are women, such as Halle Berry. And when was the last time you saw an Asian man as the main romantic lead?
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TCK"s or Third Culture Kids are difined as "[A] person who has spent a significant part of his or her developmental years outside the parents' culture. The third culture kid builds relationships to all of the cultures, while not having full ownership in any. Although elements from each culture are assimilated into the third culture kid's life experience, the sense of belonging is in relationship to others of the same background."
How being a TCK relates to my desire to adopt some day: I grew up an international child, and while the walls between country and race mean less to me than most, I grew up with an understanding of the influence of clashing cultures that is hard to explain to someone who exists in solely one culture. God has given me the gift of experiences to fuel my desire for international adoption and to understand an internationally adopted child's world.
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