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I think you've gotten soem good advice here from people I've gotten great advice from, but the only thing I want to add is that yo've been "flying under the radar" with your present child, what I wasn't prepared for was all the stares. I'm cc, dh is cc/na, bio daughter cc/na and adopted daughter is aa. I wouldn't decide to not adopt because of becoming a conspicious family but it did catch me off guard and that won't go away.
Also you will need to accept that you have to really embrace the AA part of your daughter, meaning she needs to learn about her culture. We live ina very CC community (75%) so we go out of our way to try to encorporate her culture and heritage into our lives as best we can. We are not a caucasion family with an aa daughter, we are a multiracial family - you really have to be ready to redefine yourself and your family.
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