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Originally Posted by court5505
We have an open adoption and we talk to our daughter about her birthparents and look at pictures of them. Obviously at this age, she has no idea what we are talking about. I was wondering at what age do they start to understand?
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court5505,
This is such a good question. Thank you for the replies from all of you because this is quite helpful.
I am wondering if the bparents circumstances should affect the way and when of telling your child.
For example, a child born of rape or incest, or bparent who is in jail or otherwise?
Explaining adoption from a loving standpoint, early on, with statements like "I'm so glad we adopted you." is a great idea and something I have done with my son since birth. I want to tell him he was conceived out of love and the bparents wanted the best possible life for him - but what does one do when that was not the case?
My son is not yet old enough to grasp the concept of adoption - but I want to keep making positive statements and then be able to asnwer his questions as he grows, and not lie to him either. Any advice?
Thanks for this forum - what great insight!