[Linny]

Sadmomma:
I'm so sorry you have had to go through all of this. Years ago, we had two foster children that were supposed to have been adoptable--according to the 'system workers'. They weren't (at least at that time) and we lost them after having them for almost one year. It's horrible, I know.

I fear that you are the victims of a terrible agency who did not do their procedures correctly at all. I don't see how you can do anything about it, except perhaps contact your appropriate state office to file a complaint. This kind of thing gives adoption a poor name altogether, and is NOT the way things are supposed to be handled.
The agency should have alerted you to everything as it was done; while at the same time, making sure you realized TPR's were not completed, nor was the birthfather procedure done lawfully. (From what you have written, this agency really shouldn't be doing adoptions at all!)
If you can do nothing at all.....make sure that others are aware of this agency's poor practices. It may save another family from having to go through the same situation.....
Take care and give yourself time to grieve..... ((HUG))

Sincerely,

Linny