[Lady-C]

Thank you for your reply. Secrets and lies are devasting to say the least and not healthy for anyone. I hope I didn't come off wrong.. my heart is good but sometimes the words don't come out right.
I am a senior citizen and most certainly it was so different when I was born and growing up. I am just so sad when I meet young people in the 20's and 30's who
find out as adults that they are adopted.
Last year as a direct result of my posting my story here I got a private post from a lady whose heart was breaking because there was a young man in her family about to turn 18 and he had never been told that he was adopted and that he was an in-family adoptee. As people put off telling the years flew by and then they were afraid to tell, afraid of his reaction.
Something happened the other day I would like to share.
I called my sister/aunt.. I think of her as my aunt even tho legally she is my sister. I finally shared that I never felt loved by Ma and Pa. You will never believe this but I found out that the 5 children they had... have talked about it as adults and they all say the same thing..they never felt loved by Ma and Pa. I am 63 years old and all of this time I have carried that burden that I thought it was because I was adopted and so therefore not wanted and in fact it was just the way they were and it wasn't me at all. gee
Sorry..I have rambled on.
Best to all of you
carol