[Lady-C]

Hi.. My name is Carol I am an in-family adoptee. I was adopted by my grandparents. My birthmother was sent to a HOME for Unwed Mothers and that is where I was born..the year was 1943. My grandparents decided it was the christian thing to keep me in the family. I was never meant to be told and I found out by accident when I was 12yrs old. It was very traumatic. I turned into a wild child.
The whole experience was also very painful for my birthmother who is my legal sister. To this day that is how she sees me and she is just about 80 yrs old. When she came home with me she was told that from then on I was to be her sister. She had no one to talk to, no
where to put it all so she buried it very deep.
I came here to write to you all to tell you it is a good thing you are doing, I am sure in most cases this is best for the child.
In adoptions that are not by relatives people are told that the child should be told they are adopted and told early in life. For some reason many in relative adoptions do not want to tell the child they are adopted.
I have met many adults who did not find out until after there parents died. It was very hurtful to them. Sooner or later the truth will come out. The truth is always the best. Young in life is best and then they think nothing of it.
Thanks for reading. I am sure you all deserve medals for all that you are doing.
hugs-carol