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Originally Posted by SchmennaLeigh
HappyTwinsMom brings up a great point: especially in talking with her, don't refer to her as a birthmother or your birthmother. Right now, she is simply an expectant Mother.
Best of luck on the meeting. My only advice is to be yourself. Nerves are okay but don't pretend that you don't have any... admitting to nerves and your personal and human faults makes you more... well, human to the expectant Mother.
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Thank you for your thoughts and advice... The meeting went very well. My wife and I are very pleased and we did not call her the "birthmother". She was very bright and seemed like a really good person. We met with her along with our agency representative at her sisters house. We were all very nervous but fortunately we had written out our questions so we could ask her everything we were curious about. She also had many good questions that we liked answering. She and her sister both were emotional at times as were my wife and I. She mentioned that she does not want to place her baby for adoption but that she felt it was what was best for the baby. We shared more photos of our life (our boys, house, pets etc..) with her and she showed us the ultrasound photos as well as some photos of her 3yr old daughter (who was one of the cutest little girls I've ever seen). She wants to meet our boys and wants us to meet her daughter next Friday. She gave back the other adoptive parent profiles she had to our agency representative and only kept ours and told her that she did not want to meet any other families. Now we are waiting for her to say for sure but it all looks good. We are very excited and pray that God will watch over her and this little baby girl. Any more thoughts are appreciated.