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No we have no set schedule. We talk whenever we want by phone, e-mail, or IM and often run into each other around town. Then as we would in any friendship/family relationship we talk about what is going on in life and how everyone is feeling and talk about getting together again...whenever we both can come up with a good time and something for us to do.
I've tried making it a more formal thing in the past (hoping to save our already troubled relationhsip) but it only made it worse with to many expectations and responcibilities.
Once I finally realized that my daughter would be just fine with out her birthmom in her life....or questions answered etc....it took all the pressure off all of us I think. Now I just look at it as an extra blessing to our lives. I picture them as extended family members....and friends.
I don't "define" my relationships with my friends or other family members why would I define the relationship I have with them. We have learned to just play things by ear and appreciate the good times we do have together...and when times are hard or busy keeping in touch by IM always seems to hold us together.
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