[Lilly's Mommy]

I agree with you that there is no normal or right, just what is right for you and the child's birthmother/father. We live just about 15 minutes drive from Lilly's birthmother, although we're technically in separate towns. We get together about every 3 weeks. Before Lilly was born we all thought we'd like to get together about once a month. As it has happened, both B and I enjoy getting together more often than that. We usually talk on the phone at least every other week.