[SchmennaLeigh]

The fact is this: even if you are able to magically hide your pregnancy from those around you, reactions will happen one day. What about when they see your stretch marks when you're getting dressed on your wedding day? What about when you decide that you're not willing to keep your child a secret any longer? What about when you are involved in your child's life, either now or in reunion?

It's one thing to take time to get used to an idea on your own. It's another to set yourself up for harder, harsher reactions on down the line. You DESERVE a support group.

That said, I encourage you to research the options available to you outside of what is offered by an adoption agency. Birthmother housing should be your last option for housing. Why? You need somewhere to live after your child is born as well. Public assistance offers rent assistance and, for example, our office had a list of available, affordable apartments in our county.

Don't rule out parenting because it's the "scarier" option right now in relation to telling people and finding resources. One hardship is exchanged for another when adoption is involved.