[mom2GRLC]

I feel kinda the same. I adopted my kids through fostercare and wither have an open or semi-open relationship with at least some of each of my kids birthfamily members. Well, my youngest daughter was a closed adoption. I did by accident/on purpose get her birthmom's name....and by coincidence I knew someone who was in the same class as her and was able to get a picture they had hanging up in the class of her (which I am sooooooo grateful for). I don't believe the birthmom WANTED a closed adoption I think that is just what DHS does in my area and so she was probably not given any choice. I've begged and pleaded with the adoption worker for the last year and a half to contact her and let her know we'd like to have contact with her....but she basically doesn't believe it will be good for her or us if we do so she hasn't done anything.

It's very sad because my daughter will be my only child who does not have at least some form of contact and I am worried about how she will feel about that. I don't want her to feel left out.