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How old is your DS b-mom? Was this a recent adoption?
I can tell you that in the first year after I had my daughter, her b-dad and I were on and off too, and I remember after I shared with him pics of DD (alone and with her b-family) things got a little emotional and difficult for both of us. there isn't much of a "rule of thumb" in that situation (you gave birth , but your not raising your child, the person who fathered that child is not exactly in or out of the picture, not exactly a father in the traditonal sense, etc.) it can be confusing if youre young and emotions can make things kind of grey. So if it's early in your childs life or very soon after the adoption, I can see how emotionally it sounds like she's having a hard time figuring out her place in b-dad's life and thinks this could help? It does sound strange, IMO (at that time in my life it would have really bothered me and him to have such a pic and for him to see that) but I can understand where her emotions may be coming from.
I'd try to steer clear of getting in the middle of their adjustment between eachother. Maybe this is a good time to open a dialogue about how she is adjusting. If this bothers you and you don't say anything, it may set a precedent that may eventuallylead to a breakdown in communication between you two. If she said for you to tell her if anything is making you uncomfortable, then tell her. If it were me, I'd be grateful for the honesty.
Good luck!
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