I am pretty much in the same situation you are. Our baby boy is due on Nov 28. The Bmom was raped and decided that she doesn't want to meet us and doesn't want to realease any info at all b/c she doesn't want contact. It saddened me and it still worries me b/c we intended on having an open adoption. I guess it is just like you said, the fact that we are not able to get all we expected. I still worry about when my child grows older and asks about his mom and I don't have any answers for him. At this point I don't even know her name
We plan to see a family counselor to discuss how we will explain the adoption to our son once he is of age. I imagine it would be hard to let a young boy know that he was conceived through rape. I admit I will need some helo in explaining that to him.
We also will be sending pictures and updates to the agency should she have a change of heart in the future. I wish you so much luck and congrats on your baby girl!!
