[Sun8]

I agree. keep sending photos and letters every once in a while as the bmom's situation may change. She is obviously in a very difficult point in her life now and feeling overwhelmed i imagine. In 5 years it may be different, in 10 years it will be different and in 20 I would think she would be a "settled" person. On the other hand perhaps the bmom knows herself well enough to know she is not and would not be a good influence for her bdaughter. In this case it would be her love for her that has influenced her decision for no contact.

As the saying goes, "for everything there is a time,season and reason" have faith in that and how all things are put in place now and later are done for all the best reasons.

I am an adoptee, 44 years old, have found bmom and bdad family ( he passed) I can clearly see how being adopted and having NO contact as I grew up was in my best interest. Knowing what I know now having contact would have made my life very difficult and unstable