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I am the mother of 4. Three are bio and my last adopted at the age of 2. I wanted to add that even bio kids can have attachment issues. My middle daughter had many of the signs of attachment disorder and I struggled in the beginning to make sense of what she needed from me and how to best interact with her as my first daughter was the polar opposite. My adopted son came home at almost 2 years old and attached immediately with minimal issues.
I just wanted to let others know that this is not just an adoption issue but that many kids are born into families that also have attachment issues. I am only saying this because I feel that if I didn't have a mix of adopted and bio I wouldn't realize that children are so different from each other even when they are biologically related and often I feel that I have to be a different parent to each child based on their own personality and what works for them. My personal belief is that some kids are susceptable to attachment issues no matter what their birth circumstance and other kids are born with a resilience that helps them attach.
I am happy to say that my middle daughter is very attached BUT that being said she is still the least socially motivated and the one most likely to march to the beat of her own drum. She is also hysterically funny and I completely respect that she will speak her mind.
I am glad that you were able to work through the attachments issues. I am sure that was hard on your daughters to understand.
Tiersa
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