[SadieAnn]

Natalie,

Thank you so much for this post. I am an adoptive Mom to a son via domestic adoption. He was with us from day 1. I even stayed in the hospital room with he and his bmom. BUT even with a newborn I had a strong sense the first few weeks he was home that he was grieving. Again, everyone, except my adoption network, told me I was crazy.

I was a SAHM until my husband died suddenly when our baby was just 8 months old. Again, though I was the primary caregiver our son went through some anger for a couple of months. I knew he could feel the changes in our home, missed his Daddy, and also I'm sure he could feel the emotional trauma in me. Again, family and friends would say, "that fortunately he is too young to know what is going on". Only my adoptive network didn't dismiss my concerns.

My son has transitioned to life with his single Mom, and I know my awareness of attachment in young babies helped him because I reached out for advice and did things to help reassure him.

From these experiences it is not hard to convince me that there are babies that will need attachment parenting to make the transition. Talking and sharing about it is paramount.

Thank you,

Lori