[traceyk]

Funny thing is we never talked to family members before making our decision to adopt full AA. We talked to our other children and that was it. DH and I threw around the idea about family members but we came to the same conclusion that this was our baby, not theirs. But on the same note we were not concerned as we have a VERY open extended family. I guess you have to ask yourself if you are willing to break it off if this person is harmful to your child in any way which also means emotionally and psychologically. Instead of going there for family gatherings you could have them at your house and not invite this person or give them a chance and be prepared to boot them out. Only you know what you can handle, but if you decide this is what you want, this child MUST come first and never be resented.