[bowser1952]

well i am adoptee boy, so with me being somewhat a lil trouble, but only came after my adopted dad died, i was only 13 when he passed, i was adopted at 2 yrs old.... though my adopted parents were very strict with my dad a col. in military.... by the time i was 17 yrs old i was in trouble, but mind you i never ever talked back to my adopted mom nor never put my hands on her and did not steal from her( i never knew nor don't know anything of my b/parents ) so maybe i shouldn't be saying anything in this fourum. , i just got in the wrong group and ended up in prision for 1 yr for theft..... but my adopted mom stood by me the whole time, by the time i was 21 i had to marry coz my gal friend got pg, i was told to do what was right and i did ( thats how my adopted mom was ) she said take your responsiabilty like a man, but my problem was drinking and i did some drugs too, but i paid the price , ended up being married 3 times and most only lasted 6 mos to a yr, but my 4 th marriage i don't know how or why my lil wife put up with me coz i had some problems during our first 3 yrs of marriage but if it weren't for her i would be dead today, she saved me and i have been with her for 21 yrs now, this is what my lil wife told me ... it's either me or the drugs & drinking thats was my choice and she started packing her bags and said call her daddy to come get here, she said if you really want a good life and all that comes with it the choice is yours, but she refused to live that type of life i was living at the time and tears rolled down her pretty cheeks and she said i'll be here when you are ready and she started to walk out the door and i then knew someone my lil wife cared more for me than i ever knew.... what i am saying is becoz of that day and what she said i got help and her family stood with us all the way..... within 6 mos i was clean .... i know many of you are going through rough times with your adoptee, my wife and i took in her brothers 3 ( 9 mos, 3 yrs & 6 yrs of ages )childern as dhs was involved and they were going through a devorice process ( their mother had abandoned them while the dad was at work ), the niece was aweful throwing fits banging her head , jumping out of car just crazy thangs and couldnt get her to do anythang, well one day my wife got tired of it and she told niece thats it its high time you learned your lesson, she took the niece back to dhs and told them gotta do something cant take it anymore, dhs set niece down in private showed her something of a horror what happens to childern that are left alone ( yep a film of child abuse in real life ) and then they made her appolize to my wife and then they let my wife spake her butt real good , no she didnt hurt the niece, but from that day on that niece never once was disrespectable toward us again... it usually takes an outsider to get what needs to be done, but also no matter how old na child is as long as they living under your roof they must mind and respect you...