Thanks for the reply...I understand about RAD and what you mean...however, these people were not in their lives even as foster parents.
They were people that took them out to eat maybe 8 times over 2 months, expecting a huge role in their lives after the CLOSED adoption, and being very rude and judgemental (again, Baptist home) about us and trying to encourage our children to "not take the first family that comes along".
With this information, what do you think?
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Originally Posted by ajrl
Kristi:
I am a foster mom and I can understand you telling them things. I know I would. But be very careful. They did form some attachments and you really shouldnt cut them off totally it is not good for them mentally. I would probably allow them to write letters and have phone calls because in the end they will hold it against you. Put a block on your cellphone if you allow them to call. It is so hard for them to be uprooted again and again and then cut off from whomever they might find the slightest bit of attachment. Becareful and read up on RAD... Reactive Attachment Disorder. I have seen that in so many foster kids.
AJ
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Kristi
PROUD forever Moma to daughter K, age 13 and son K, age 12
Moved in on 08/15/2006
Finalized on 04/09/2007, 2:30 p.m.
Foster to Adopt, through DHS in Oklahoma