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I had to respond to this one. I was in the same situation as you, we were working with a FFA and I just felt like they weren't telling us the truth, they always put it right and they always tell you what you want to hear, however, I have come to find out, they are like that so you could sign with them, I'm not saying all FFA are like that, but at least the one we were working with was. First, they told us that for newborns and a girl we were going to wait a long time, probably two years, since newborns are really hard to place because everyone wants them. So, after hearing this, I just felt this wasn't a good agency for us, so we switched directly to LA county, mind you, FFA told us that if we work with directly with the county, our case was going to take much longer, which wasn't true at all.
We didn't have to re-take MAPP classes again, but all the process to application, homestudy etc, took us about 4 months, again it all depends how quickly you turn in your paperwork. But, here comes the best part, we didn't have to wait two years for a newborn baby girl. We were matched to a beautiful two days old baby girl a month and a half after our homestudy was approved. She is healthy and perfect in every way, and we will be signing adoption placement in two weeks, and hope to finalize by the end of the year. So she will be a year when we adopt her.
So, after this long post, all I wanted to say is, that if you feel that way about that agency, switch now, before you regret it later. And as far as drug exposed babies, the majority are, but that doesn't mean that all of them will be have major problems. Ours was exposed prenatally, she didn't go thru any withdrawals and is developmentally on target. Most of the time, county don't have a lot of information, since they only go for what birthmother tells them, and most of the time, is not much. Our dd wasn't tested for anything except drugs and the genetic test. We had to do it ourselves after. Hope this helps.
Isa
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