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Originally Posted by kune
lahdh4 and chelesgirl
33 years ago, I was pregnant and didn't tell my family. I went through the pregnancy and birth alone, and I would never ever advocate it as best practice. It was lonely and frightening.
33 years later, when I was contacted by my son, I had to tell my 84 yr old mother and two sisters and brother. And all my friends who thought they knew me and all my secrets.
I know now that I didn't have to do it alone. There would have been support for me. If I chose to parent, they would have had to support me, and if I felt it necessary to place the child for adoption, it would be my decision.
Go see your parents - tell them you are pregnant and need their help. Talk about your options, and if you do not have their support go see your college counsellor or some other professional who will help you access the services you need. Actually........you and your child need. There are now two lives involved - yours and your baby and you need to have support for whatever choice you make.
Where are the fathers? They need to take some responsiblity too.
((Hugs to you)) and please......take care and make the best decision you can for you and the babies.
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I got pregnant in 1963 at 15, delivered at 16 in Feb of 1964.
Like all Catholic girls I knew that if you missed 3 periods you were pregnant..
That was when I told my mother, who took control. Refused to listen to me and contacted a doctor to try and have me aborted. I was too far along and he wouldn't do it. It was illegal, I am lucky she didn't take my to some back alley butcher. As it was I was sent to a doctor who found babies for private adoption..
I was not told anything, I just closed down and did what I was told.
33 years later I found my son and we have a great relationship.
Knowing when you are pregnant and what your options are is so different now.