[Niclayson]

Ani,

My son was in both. He spent the first 4 months in a small baby home and the next 3 with a foster mother (he was moved because the baby home closed). So we were his 4th placement. For most of you, you will be the 3rd placement. Remember from birthmom, to hogar, to you. As strange as it sounds, even if the child never lived with his birthmother...he remembers her voice and heartbeat and it IS a loss to him.

I do believe that how children react is related to their personality. Some do fine, others don't. Just prepare yourself well....and things will work out. Parenting, whether adopted or biological, is always a challenge. The Forrest Gump saying about "life is a box of chocolates, you don't know what you are going to get" applies here!