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We struggled as well with Juan Carlos who came home at 27 months... and forty pounds! I couldn't wear him, and we did co-sleep in the beginning, but it really didn't work for any of us! With Juan Carlos the situation was further complicated as he suffers from a mood disorder which was recently diagnosed, and sometimes we weren't sure what to link behaviors to. It is not always easy, but it is worth every struggle.
He didn't always show his emotions at first, and just seemed so happy, but he was acting almost like a little adult and not bonding to us. He would walk away from us in a store and never look back. Now he is very well bonded but does have a lot of insecurities.
Be prepared for your family to think you're nuts. I think mine still do sometimes but I don't care. You'll be the one living with it, and you'll know best. Trust your instincts. If your baby is doing remarkably well but something just isn't quite right, go with your gut. Toughen your skin about what others think, and be prepared to do what's best for your child in the face of criticism. It's amazing what can affect our little one's. My bio son spent some time in the NICU, and I was sick and not allowed in to visit. Our first couple weeks together were rough because he hadn't bonded to anyone during that time... even that young they can be affected.
Chelsea
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